Let me start by saying I am proud. Proud of a woman, standing up for what SHE (you) truly believes is right.
Speaking up; in a society where our freedoms are taken for granted every day. For speaking up in a world that, in some places ,does not have the right to speak as freely as you have. I am proud of you for making your mark on this world. For giving us something to think about.
I only wish you had come to me first. I only wish you had opened up sooner about the feelings that you have toward motherhood, being a wife, and homemaking.
I would have told you about the joys that I’ve found personally in the ‘average’ life I live. I would have told you about the Great Love I have for the sacrament of marriage and motherhood.
I read your article. To me, it seems like maybe you didn’t have a mother to raise you; or maybe she had to raise you all alone without a father in the home. Maybe she wasn’t there for you. Maybe she didn’t care for you like other Mother’s cared for their children. Maybe she was ill most of your life or maybe died while giving birth to you. I don’t know. But there is something to be said about a woman that rails on motherhood and marriage—with such anger and malicious thoughts.
Perhaps the world does not know the truth behind your hurt. Whatever it was—I’m sorry that it had such an adverse affect on you.
You asked if “…people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself?”
The answer is, emphatically, No! People don’t really think that. There is no way to think that a mom is on that same type of plane as an independent, working, unmarried woman. There is no comparison really. It is as they say “Apples and Oranges.” Is one right and the other wrong? No. They are just different.
But you know that already. You answered that question yourself.
Again, you stated and obvious truth--
“Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones.”
Just as the working woman finds accomplishments in her diploma, her corporate position …these are all celebrated milestones.
However, the sad truth is—Women ‘get knocked up’ everyday. Cause for celebration, not always. Cause for persecution and acts of hate against them, no.
Some of those women who celebrate ‘finding someone’ with whom to walk down the isle—may go on to have children, adopt children, or never have children ever.
I say to you “Average” comes in many shapes and forms. In today’s times, “Average” could be someone railing on others because of their choices. “Average” could come in the form of an Open letter, to someone they’ve never met. I think if you’d like to celebrate things like Intercontinental Backpacking…then do it!
Celebrate! Celebrate the accomplishments that others barely can dream of doing. Before long—won’t those things too, become Average? If we celebrate getting out of bed everyday…isn’t there something wrong with that? I say…”this is the day the LORD has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!” Whether we can get out of bed OR remain bedridden our entire lives. Two different lives to be lived, different, but not wrong.
We all ‘secretly like to talk about how hard’ this job was or that task was—you can’t just single out the woman on that one. All of Man kind would like other’s to think we are above AVERAGE. Our talent is special. Our need is special. Our strength, knowledge or place is exceptional. Your also right on one other point too. Men are not conditioned, dare I say DESIGNED, to care about the managing of a household. No. Men are Designed to Go out and work hard, kill something and drag it home to eat it with the wife and kids. Barbaric?—maybe. But, Men aren’t designed to ‘fluff pillows’. They don’t whine about doing the laundry; but, IF it is a job that needs doing MEN are DESIGNED to do it. All men (and women) without grumbling and complaining.
But we’re not really talking about men today are we? No. We’re talking about women, wives, mothers-
I am sorry, to have to say, you are wrong and have been fed a very bad lesson (ie: wrong doctrine) on this one account,
I believe that because a woman has a husband, a God-fearing Man she has all the time, energy,freedom and mobility she NEEDS to be exceptional in her life and the life of that husband and the life of those children (or nieces and nephews)…however, many or few; and FINDS GREAT LOVE AND JOY in doing it. No matter how many people try to tell her otherwise, no words can cause her to think otherwise.
I truly wish we could have had this talk sooner.
But, it isn’t too late. Amy, you too< may know the GREAT LOVE I have; and of which I speak. You too may know the Truth about JOY in the Average things of life and an EXCEPTIONAL LIFE lived in Christ Jesus.
If you read my letter. Perhaps we can talk.
But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these. For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses,always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so these men also oppose the truth, men of depraved mind, rejected in regard to the faith. But they will not make further progress; for their folly will be obvious to all, just as Jannes’s and Jambres’s folly was also.
Now you followed my teaching, conduct, purpose, faith, patience, love, perseverance, persecutions,and sufferings, such as happened to me at Antioch, at Iconium and at Lystra; what persecutions I endured, and out of them all the Lord rescued me! Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted. But evil men and impostors will proceed from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived.You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.
~2 Timothy 3